So here’s what happened yesterday. We were at Target and I grabbed a pregnancy test and threw it into the cart. My husband did a double take, looked at me and said “really?” “Maybe” I said. “I’m no longer hungry” he said. I took the test shortly after we got home and brought it down to show him. He took a look and said “what does this mean?” I said “I’m pregnant.” He said, “is there any chance this could be wrong?” I said, “nope.” Then he asked me why I let him buy a new car last week.
My head is a jumbled mess right now. I’m having an out of body experience and totally freaking out. Yes, I’m over the moon and completely excited about this recent development. But I am in shock. I never expected it to be this easy. Yes, it did require a hysteroscopy (which I’m still fighting my insurance company to get reimbursement for), but I never thought it would be as easy as just having sex with my husband. Who knew that could work?
I have such a range of emotions right now. I feel guilty. Guilty for calling myself infertile and still feeling infertile. Guilty for starting this blog and inviting others into my journey only to discover almost immediately that the journey was to be much easier than expected (the word “poser” comes to mind). Guilty for even wanting a third child when I lucked out so much with the twins.
I’m also mad. Why didn’t this happen when we first started trying to get pregnant? If it was that easy, why did it take us 3 years, numerous invasive treatments with disappointment along the way and a boat load of cash?
I’m terrified. Three kids under the age of 2?! When we stopped protecting I figured it would be months if not years before we got pregnant again, if at all, and that it would take more IVF cycles. It never even occurred to me that it would happen so quickly. My husband just got a car that is probably not the best for carting around 3 kids in car seats. Heck, I don’t even know if I can fit 3 car seats into my car.
How in the world am I going to get 3 kids to day care and back every day, not to mention paying for 3 kids in day care? We will probably start looking into nannies, but I really think the kids get a lot out of day care and being around other kids their age. We’ve finally got our morning and evening routines down to a science and I can’t imagine throwing a newborn into the mix right now.
How will the kids react to a new baby in the house? If it is anything like how they react to the dogs, they will just try to beat up on the kid.
What in the world is my work going to say? How is this going to affect my career? I’ve just found my rhythm at work again.
I know I asked for this. I went into this with open eyes and I want this more than anything in the world. I just need some time to adjust and take it all in. We’ll figure things out as we go, as with anything else. I’m just reeling right now.
I’m happy. Happier than I’ve ever been in my life. Thank you everyone for all of your well wishes. And I’m so sorry to those of you who might have been hurt by my news. I hope all of your dreams come true. Really, truly.
I am already completely emotionally attached to this baby. I’m so scared that something will happen. I called my wonderful OB today to let her know the news. She asked if I wanted to be treated like a “normal” pregnant woman, or if I wanted more reassurance. I’m sure you can guess my answer. She told me to come in for a blood draw today to check HCG and progesterone levels. I’ll go back either Wednesday or Thursday for another blood draw and pray for doubling HCG. If all goes well, she’ll do an ultrasound around 6 weeks to check for a heartbeat. Thank goodness she understands my paranoia and need for reassurance using scientific data (numbers)!